Getting Real with Church

Christ Church fall 05 500So you don’t want to go to church anymore?

I have had a post titled that sitting in my drafts for months now.  It all started with a conversation I had with a young woman, a mother and a friend about five years ago.

We had gone to church together, I was getting to know her.  We had walked through some life changing things together and the church conversation came up between us just in casual conversation.

The boiled down version is, she was sick of it.  Sick of the yuck that sometimes comes in organizations where there are groups of people interacting together.  For her, she could take it when it only affected her, but once it hit home with her kids, that was another story.  She was not going to play that way.

And to be straight up honest, I don’t blame her.broken-down-church

Our churches are broken.  And our current brand of band-aids just ain’t cutting it.  There.  I said it.

I will not hash out the issues of all that’s broken about our churches because frankly I’m tired of every where I turn seeing those same issues hashed out twenty different ways.  With twenty different opinions.

We’re broken, we need a miracle.


So, my best word here will probably make you chuckle since I think its roots link back to Mother Theresa, but say them I will.

Be The Change You Want To See In Your Church

When, not if, you see the body or people that attend your church treat others in a way that is ungodly,  don’t walk by horrified and think to yourself, I’ll pray for them.  Stop.  And repeat after me…..

I’m sorry, I love you, but what you are doing is not ok, and you need to stop.  Now.  Let’s talk and pray over this and see what God says about this situation, but you cannot continue to slander and abuse people.  That is not God’s way and it does not belong in this house.

Now maybe the very thought of a conversation like that makes you break out in hives and throw up in your mouth, yes, me too.

But that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t need to happen.

Please don’t leave it all to the pastors of your churches to handle these situations.  God has fully equipped you and called you to be the body and practice scripture in everyday life without your pastor holding your hand.

And pastors and leaders, please don’t allow broken people who hurt and manipulate out of their own brokenness to continue to hold positions they can’t handle.  Work with them.  Love them.  But call them aside and let others step up to fill those places.  Don’t say, “I can’t do this because then this will happen, or this won’t happen.” You do what needs to be done and God will honor and bless, you have no idea what He might do if He sees you, His servant, bravely stand up for His truth.

Let’s make our churches the safe places they should be instead of the places that they have become and that so many people now avoid. 

It starts with you and me.

This is a post in the 31 days series of Getting Real.  Read the rest of those posts here.



Getting Real :: Surrounded Part Two

You’re surrounded.

In a good way.

Meet people who are for you!  They surround you and build you up.  If you are looking for safe places on the internet, these are the ones…

Moms, she’s just like you in real life. Meet Lisa Jo.

She has a real life dictionary definition for mothers.

And Ann, without the e.  She always reminds us of who we really are.  She encourages us to be real with Jesus too. Screen shot 2014-10-21 at 2.47.26 PM

Finally, Holley.  She is for you dear one.

Never Alone by Holley Gerth

See, you’re surrounded friend.  Even if you’re stuck in a sick bed.  Or maybe on the back forty in Alaska.  Maybe your life is consumed in caregiving, or you may just have three littles in diapers and consider a trip to the potty a luxury.

You are not alone.  There are others who are real in real life.  They make real mistakes, and they show real love.  Jesus’ love.


So glad you’ve come along on this journey to Getting Real.  Hope you’ll make this a regular stop on your journey.